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Hayes says he has spent decades studying “human misery” and has gleaned one groundbreaking insight into its causes. “Thousands of independent studies make it clear that suffering is often the result of something called psychological inflexibility,” he says. “This may sound complex,” he acknowledges, but in layman’s terms, it simply means you tend to prioritize short-term gains over bigger picture goals or values “at the cost of long-term pains.” Conversely, psychological flexibility is “the ability to focus on the present moment fully and, according to what the situation affords, change or persist with behavior in the pursuit of goals and values....